http://www.cnn.com/2009/HEALTH/07/28/divorce.marriage.health/index.html
I won't dribble on too too much about this but I must reiterate my frustration at the focus on divorce as the problem rather than the intense pressure to be married along with low quality marriages and/or hasty choices or even as just a part of life. Beginnings, endings, births, deaths, marriage, divorce. The accepted negativity and resulting stigma of a thing is often more the problem than the thing itself.
Also, I believe no matter how it gets sliced in today's world a lot of folks will realize other options and will go for that. I say today's world not because I think there is anything wrong with today's world or it encourages divorce more than yesterday's world. It's a more viable option. Does the viability of the option of divorce urge people towards it? I don't think so. I think a crappy marriage does. Do I think we should encourage divorce? Do I think we should villainize marriage? Do I think we should make it a sin so people will guiltily stay where they do not want to be? Do I think we should legislate to force people to stay where they don't feel they can thrive? Do I realistically think even any amount of warning or training regarding marriage would stop the smitten yet mismatched people from tying the knot? No I don't think any of that. I know divorce is hard. I know marriage is difficult as well. I have no real point I guess except that I know deep down that evil thing called divorce saved my life.
p.s. if a grown man cannot be responsible enough to schedule his own colonoscopy he has no one to blame but himself.
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